The time is always right to do what's right.
— Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
There's a funny thing about doing the right thing.
Doing implies action.
Sometimes, oftentimes really, doing the right thing requires that we refrain from doing.
Especially when it comes to recovering from addiction.
Whether we are addicted to alcohol, food, anger, negative thoughts, and so on and so forth... the right action is refraining from action.
There's still the same impulse for action happening up front. Act! Speak! Do!
But before action or refraining comes envisioning, clarity, intention, decision, commitment.
Refraining from action is more difficult, more challenging than action. You need space. You need space and time for all the aforesaid considerations. Just a second but definitely at least a second.
That's where some sort of meditation or mindfulness or breathing practice comes in. That's where ongoing sobriety really helps. A lot.
It's a matter of time. And if you can't get into anything else. Get into the present moment. Whatever you may be feeling or wanting to do. If you can snap yourself into the present moment long enough to check in with another person about what (destructive) action you may have the impulse to take, you may buy yourself enough time to snap yourself out of taking action you would be better off refraining from.
Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.
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