Honestly, it's really great to have some project or to create some project for yourself in early sobriety. Work off your early days creatively.
I've had the fortune of a painting commission. I've been working at it for about four or five days interrupted by two teaching days. I think that it's complete now but I'm going to sleep on it.
I'm happy with it and grateful for the project. If you're in early sobriety and biting your nails or something, make a list of everything you could do. Draw, sing, make up a song, make up a dance, knit, leaf through a Martha Stewart Living magazine if your imagination is not in gear. Cook some great meal just for fun. Practice an instrument.
Get involved with a creative project for the sake of doing the thing not to be great at it. This is definitely not the time to be saying that you're no good at anything. Who cares? It takes a gazillion hours of practice to get good at something. Just start for the fun of it.
Pick up a pencil or pen and start making marks on a piece of paper. The marks don't have to look like anything at all. Start a doodle diary. There's an idea.
Watch your crazy thinking evaporate and your energy flow into making something. It's a good thing.
It's a pledge. When you make a commitment, you obligate yourself. The use or embodiment of the act of commitment is one of the first concepts I learned in my training as a life coach.
If you struggle with sobriety, if you struggle with relapse, if you've ever woken up after a hangover and sworn that you will never touch a drop again, and yet... you did, this post is for you.
Have you sworn a pledge to yourself? Have you obligated yourself to your own best life (because that's what an alcohol-free life will bring you)? Have you untangled your promise to never pick up a drink again from your feelings of regret, self-loathing, hopelessness, powerlessness, lack of self worth?
Whatever you may have been taught to think of power and powerlessness when it comes to the use and abuse of alcohol, one thing is for sure...
You have the power to commit to yourself!
Now I'm going to tell you a bit about W. H. Murray.
Murray was a Scottish mountaineer who was captured and held in several Nazi prisoner-of-war camps for three years. During that time, in poor health and without proper nutrition, Murray wrote the draft of a book called Mountaineering in Scotland on rough toilet paper. The Gestapo found the first draft and destroyed it. Murray then re-wrote the book, again on toilet paper. After the war, he published the book and then wrote another.
I share that bit about Murray with you as an example of determined commitment. But the real reason I bring him up is to share his quote with you. One of my most favorite quotes ever because it's true, because it's helped me in the past, I am using it today to help myself and, I hope, to help you.
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe's couplets:
-W. H. Murray
Take the first step now. Even if you've taken first steps before. Do it again.
Commit to yourself. Put one foot in front of the other. Begin.
Venus in retrograde 10.05-11.16.18
Oh, my goddess!
How many more times are you going to allow yourself to say today, I am ending this.
Then... tomorrow. Tomorrow I am ending this.
Who is in charge here?
What is the problem?
You know that you want to stop drinking,
over-eating, going to bed with your iPhone but when?
You know that you have a problem with take your pick of addiction.
When is it all going to stop?
You've probably read a pile of books,
left comments on blog posts and facebook groups and gone to a meeting or two
but what in the F is the problem?
Why are you still drinking?
These are questions I asked myself over too many years.
I was sober for so many years and I totally get the program promises of sobriety.
I know what it's like to be sober for years,
to wake up with no hangover,
to attract miraculous opportunity,
to feel good!
To have years of sobriety...
it's so good, productive, full of little miracles.
I also know what it's like to fucking fall off the wagon.
I know what it's like to pick up a drink after years of sobriety,
to make bad decisions,
to lose almost everything,
to scramble through survival, the mechanical movements of just being alive,
to loathe myself, to be reduced to pocket change (!),
to say to myself and others that I am stopping now and never picking up a drink again
and then to pick up a drink again
I know what it's like to try every method,
to read every book,
to go to meetings and hate everyone,
to feel like I'm a loser because I keep picking up a drink
even though I know
I need a community I can relate to
that, contrary to the prime program tenets,
most people fall off the wagon,
that the relapse percentages contradict the popular program promises
and that it takes more for most people than just pleading powerlessness
to get sober and stay sober.
I know that it's different for women to try to get sober than it is for men.
I know that it's different for women over 50 to get sober than it is for younger people.
I know that we need a full kit of tools to help us heal our
minds, bodies, souls and routines to
get off and stay off the sauce.
I understand because I've been through this myself
and I go through this sobriety business on a daily basis.
I come from long alcoholic bloodlines on both sides of my parents' aisles.
I have traumas and and autism and anxiety and depression in my realm.
I want to help me keep sober and I want to help YOU get and stay sober.
Here's what's happening right now.
Venus is entering retrograde.
October 5 - November 16, 2018.
This is not a good astrological time for many things.
However, I happen to think that it's an idea astrological time to
move into sobriety and
to prepare yourself for the year end holiday season
to launch yourself sober into the new year.
Venus in retrograde is not a good time to fall in love or
start a new business but
boy, is it a good time to quit drinking and to ask yourself
wait, what happened to that right arm?
Where did that left arm go?
What am I really resentful about?
What, within my own self, is really holding me back?
40 days is a sacred, historic phase of time.
40 days is a really good length of time to be clean and sober.
40 days will give you ground to stand on to get you through the
holiday season whether or not you are alone and lonely or
having to mix with family madness or
drinking friends or
...you tell me.
Let's spend the next 40 days together
being clean and sober
in a small group
where we can share whatever
with loads of support
from each other
and a systematic daily and weekly set up
that I'll provide for you
with my well-developed teaching skills.
We need each other.
We can do great things while sober.
Let me share with you every trick in the book that I have learned the hard way
over years of getting sober through the program
on my own
via dozens of books and non-12-step methods.
Let me pull out all the big guns
including tarot and astrology and
prayers and magic and nature and creativity and
wonder on a small and grand scale.
That's what I've got for you today.
We need to band together to help heal ourselves and each other.
Connect here or wherever you find the best resonance.
Wherever, however you find ways to get and stay sober, get there and be there. We need you sober and strong. We need you to help us all heal.
"The more, therefore you relinquish power and trust others, the more powerful you become.” -Alan Watts
We're starting on 10.11 (though you can lose the alcohol now to prepare)
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Are you trying to heal yourself?
Are you depleted? Dry. Feel like you're dying but getting up to give more every day or wasted by what you've provided?
Are you angry? Is your anger masquerading or based in fear? Have you exploded recently?
Maybe you're suffering from chronic stress.
Maybe you're giving a little too much. Maybe you're not supporting yourself enough.
If you expect yourself to give, you absolutely must support yourself first. It's a universal law. It's a law of cosmic architecture.
If you do not provide yourself a good foundation, how can you build a structure that supports and shelters others?
If you are not healthy and strong within yourself, how can you support your family or your clients? That's a sincere question that I want you to ask yourself. Now.
More importantly, if you are chronically stressed, how can you support yourself?
What are you first doing to support yourself so that you can support yourself and support others? Again, tell us what you're doing in a comment below. Help everyone with your own experience.
Here's what you need to pay attention to if you are not serving from a strong and healthy foundation.
Are you experiencing
Are you addicted to anything?
Are you sabotaging yourself?
These are major signs that you are not fully supporting yourself or, better yet, that you are not allowing yourself to be fully supported by the universe at large, the great creator, the word, the light of creation, god, or however the all of eternity expresses itself to you.
• Sit still.
• Allow your heart to open.
• Consider the option of trust.
• Ask yourself, "What would it feel like to trust that the great creator has great creator has my back? What would it feel like to know that I am here to serve for the greatest good?
• What would it feel like to know that I am present, here, in this moment. Always?
• How fertile can I make the ground I am standing on?
Consider these tips. Seriously. What do you think? Leave comments below to help yourself and to help others help others.
I have a long "to-do" list to help you with chronic stress (coming soon) but that won't do you any good whatsoever if you don't first sit still, breathe, and ask yourself to do and answer the above.
Remain in light.
Loads of love to you...
I am not a doctor. However, I've enjoyed a lifetime of learning how to heal myself and keep myself relatively healthy. It's fun for me. Herein, I'm sharing the healing measures I've taken for my own foot and ankle fractures with hopes that some or all of this information may be of help to you.
I am somewhat of an expert on ankle sprains but, after a recent fall, not only did I suffer a massive ankle and foot sprain but also a fracture of my 5th metatarsal (a Jones Fracture), a cracked my medial tibia from mid-calf straight through the ankle bone, and cracked something on the outside ankle bone. I did not have any displaced bones and did not require any surgery.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, you have my sympathy. My recommendations follow.
Rest. Ice. Compression. Elevation. Stick to this tried and true formula for the first 48 - 72 hours to which I'll add...
Immediately apply Arnica Gel or T-Relief. or Traumeel. Begin taking Arnica Tablets internally. Take the recommended dosage of any pain medication. Apparently, Ibuprofen is "off the list for mending bones" (it interferes with process) but helps to reduce swelling in sprains.
Ask for help. Have x-rays taken so that you know what's injured. Ask for a ride to the E.R. Bring a good book. Ask for print copies of your x-rays. Why? A succession of doctors did not notice, for one month, that my medial tibia and ankle were fractured. I had to tell them that I thought I had additional breaks and ask them to re-check the x-rays.
Do not try to walk on your foot. I mean it!
Your Healing Regimen
Attitude is crucial. So, first off, count your blessings! Fractures and sprains are temporary. Become aware of any whining or complaining. Whining and complaining do you no good whatsoever. You will find that engaging in this crankiness will probably make you feel worse. People will expect you to complain. Surprise them. Be of good cheer. You won't always be able to feel chipper but make a go of it anyway. It'll make you feel better. All things considered, you're experiencing a rather minor issue. But if you do not properly care for yourself, you'll make matters worse and add to your recovery time.
Do not walk on your foot. I still mean it! I am off my foot for 12 - 14 weeks. When I first sprained my ankle at age 11, it was placed in a plaster cast. Within a week, I'd removed the cast with my father's hammer and chisel. I know you want to walk as soon as possible. Do not do so until your bones can support you. Deal with it.
Do not smoke. Trying to walk on your foot before the bones, ligaments and tendons are healed and smoking are the absolute worst things you could possible do. Frankly, I was a closet smoker. Just two or three cigarettes in the evening. When I broke these bones, and I smoked... I could feel myself compromised at the cellular level. I don't know how else to express it. I have not had a cigarette since, nor have I desired one.
Rest. And I don't mean for one or two days. You must plan on resting more than usual throughout your recovery. Your body needs to direct energy towards physical healing.
Do your research. Educate yourself. Ask your doctor as many questions as you can think of and then learn about your particular injury or set of injuries. Learning is interesting and empowering. Make it a creative project! Go crazy on Google. You're not going to be able to do much else for the first little while.
Expect a few pitfalls. Immobility, crutches, and slow going can be a pain. Like the learning curve, the healing curve is not straight up. You can pretty much plan on having a few sets of downer days. If you're mentally prepared, you can work your way through them more easily. Just relax and let it all wash over you. You are not always going to be lying around.
Accept your situation. What's done is done. Surrender. You are healing now. It's going to take some time. Be brave. You can do it! You are not actually healing your foot and ankle, you are creating the optimal conditions under which your bones and tendons and ligaments can heal at the cellular level.
Exercise. What? Yes. It's really important for your body but also for your mental state and general well being. You'll be much happier during and after recovery because of it. Swimming is your best bet and non-weight bearing yoga poses are wonderful.
Swimming: Find the schedule for your nearest pool and plan at least two lap swimming sessions per week. Ease into it. Don't force your injured foot to do anything it doesn't want to. Start with a kick board if you have to. Make it a game to increase your number of laps and time in pool per session. Be very careful with your crutches on the wet floors! Ask for whatever help you need to get in and out of the pool.
Yoga: Find non-weight bearing yoga poses or modify some positions to accommodate your injured foot and ankle. Don't try anything you are not already secure with. Challenge yourself to create a sequence that will give you a basic routine to use daily.
Soak in Epsom Salts.
(or Comfrey Leaf to make a poultice)
Grampa's Garden Therapeutic Massage Oil
Garlic and Ginger Capsules
A good multi-vitamin, Calcium supplement, Vitamin C and B-Complex.
Epsom Salts (but, of course).
Does this seem like a lot to buy? Most of these items should live in your medicine cabinet or kitchen at all times. They are fundamental ingredients of first aid and you should be taking the supplements anyway (imho). Think about doctor bills.
Regarding the matter at hand (or foot!):
Arnica acts as pain reliever and anti-inflammatory. Application prevents or hastens healing of bruises and reduces swelling and works especially well if applied immediately after trauma (though is helpful to prevent pain and inflammation throughout healing period). Homeopathic Arnica pills and tablets taken internally have same effect.
The main active ingredient in Comfrey is Allantoin which generates cells and promotes cell replacement. Bones knit themselves back together on the cellular level. An old folk name for Comfrey is "knitbone".
Juniper (especially), Rosemary, Wintergreen and Peppermint help to promote circulation. Circulation helps to promote healing on a cellular level. So does massage. Healing on a cellular level helps to knit bones. Foot bones (especially the 5th metatarsal) have limited circulation (they're far from the heart), therefore, trouble healing.
By the way, I only recommend what I consider superior products at good prices that I, myself, use and love.
My triple threat treatment!
3x per day:
Slather a thin layer of Arnica Gel over your fracture and sprain areas
Drop Comfrey tincture on fracture and sprain areas and massage into skin
Gently massage adulterated* Grampa's Therapeutic Massage Oil into foot and ankle for 15 - 20 minutes (or as long as you can -- some time is better than no time!).
*Add additional Juniper Oil and Olbas (contains juniper, rosemary, peppermint oils) to Grampa's Garden Therapeutic Oil to help further promote circulation.
I slept with a comfrey poultice on my foot and ankle during the first ten days. I could actually feel it working but the whole thing was a bit time consuming and messy so I switched to the tincture which I think is less effective but still very helpful.
Steer clear of sugar and caffeine (especially coffee).
Do I have to tell you to not drink alcohol?
Eat well. Fresh vegetables and fruit. Real food. Drink pure water. You'll feel better.
(They couldn't hurt!)
Click here for a list of semi-precious stones thought to benefit broken bones and here for a general list of healing stones.
You can find these stones in new age shops, ask a massage therapist where to buy, or check eBay. You can sleep with these stones under your pillow and carry them around in a small pouch on your person as you go through your daily life.
And one more thing! Buy yourself a good pair of knee pads. Sometimes you might have to climb, foot and knee (careful!), and sometimes you might just want to crawl. I recommend Fiskars Contoured-Fit Knee Pads. I've been using them all along and they've really helped.
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