It's a pledge. When you make a commitment, you obligate yourself. The use or embodiment of the act of commitment is one of the first concepts I learned in my training as a life coach.
If you struggle with sobriety, if you struggle with relapse, if you've ever woken up after a hangover and sworn that you will never touch a drop again, and yet... you did, this post is for you.
Have you sworn a pledge to yourself? Have you obligated yourself to your own best life (because that's what an alcohol-free life will bring you)? Have you untangled your promise to never pick up a drink again from your feelings of regret, self-loathing, hopelessness, powerlessness, lack of self worth?
Whatever you may have been taught to think of power and powerlessness when it comes to the use and abuse of alcohol, one thing is for sure...
You have the power to commit to yourself!
Now I'm going to tell you a bit about W. H. Murray.
Murray was a Scottish mountaineer who was captured and held in several Nazi prisoner-of-war camps for three years. During that time, in poor health and without proper nutrition, Murray wrote the draft of a book called Mountaineering in Scotland on rough toilet paper. The Gestapo found the first draft and destroyed it. Murray then re-wrote the book, again on toilet paper. After the war, he published the book and then wrote another.
I share that bit about Murray with you as an example of determined commitment. But the real reason I bring him up is to share his quote with you. One of my most favorite quotes ever because it's true, because it's helped me in the past, I am using it today to help myself and, I hope, to help you.
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe's couplets:
-W. H. Murray
Take the first step now. Even if you've taken first steps before. Do it again.
Commit to yourself. Put one foot in front of the other. Begin.
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